Okay, I’m sure this happens to most people to some degree. After all, you’ve been with yourself for years. Uggh, boring. But it’s enough time to perceive certain patterns.
Have you discovered certain “labels” that people who don’t know you very well tend to use to refer to you? They are usually very polite, common and nice. I mean the ones they say in front of you. I know a lot is said behind your back that is not polite, maybe is somewhat common and definitely is not nice.
And by “you” I mean “me”.
But no, I’m talking about the out-in-the-open labels.
Maybe you have taken part of one of those silly group excercises where the participants are asked to say “what do you like/think about X person?”
X being you of course. Gosh I hate those excercises.
Maybe you been in a family meeting where they refer to you for some reason? Christmas stories? Anything?
Well in my case it’s always been about the academic success.
“Well, Nessa is 15 and already in university!!!”.
“I think Nessa is very good at school stuff. You’d wish she were more social though.”.
“She’s very cute, quiet and smart. Aww sweet stuff. You want to pinch her cheeks.”
Even when crazyness arised, after uncomfortable silences they say again: “well, she’s in med school… very smart. uh… yeah”
“So very good in school, quiet and fragile… awww”
Not to mention that I can’t get angry because the response is still “Awww!!!” and that usually makes me more angry and then the cuteness gets to irresistible levels. But that’s another story. And lately I don’t look so much like an 8 year old, so it’s getting better.
Note that these things annoy me only because they have been with me my entire life. You might think is not a big deal. It’s not really.
Now think about your own labels and tell me if they don’t bother YOU. 😉
No, seriously, tell me about them.